So we have all heard about one night stands, you know those naughty encounters that only last for that one night only. Some of us have tried it before, even sometimes making it a lifestyle; whilst others still see it as a fantasy that they wish to happen. The truth is that getting laid with no strings isn’t the hardest thing to do, especially now that there are so many sex dating sites out there. But even though it sounds like something that happens on the moment, there are still a few things you should prepare yourself for. In other words: don’t rush to go to your first one night stand; instead try to prepare yourself for it. There are a few things you can do before the fact that will make you have a better time.

Tip#1 – Pick the right dating site

The first thing you will want to do is to make sure that you are searching for the right people in the right place. So if you’re using a traditional dating site, you might find that people reject your offers because a lot of those people are there searching for romance rather than sex. It might seem like an obvious thing to say but you’re better off looking around at all the different sex dating sites available on the web. Some of those sites specialise with certain niches such as BDSM, mature partners, or even local sex dating; so you need to pick up whichever works better for you. Local dating is good if you don’t want to wait too long, you might even be able to fuck tonight on Local Bangs or other sites like that one. But even if you have an opportunity to make things happen today, you will want to make sure you get a bit familiar with your potential future partner first. Which leads us to the next bit of advice.

Tip#2 – Get to know the people

Now you don’t need to know everything about a person before sleeping with them, and sometimes the less you know the naughtier it feels. But you need to make sure that at the very least, the two of you will have some kind of compatibility in bed. So chat away, talk about the things you want to do; your favourite positions and practices… and ask your potential partner about what they like to do. It is not just about you but also about the other person, and a few little naughty chats will allow the both of you to determine if it’s a good idea that you get together at the first place. Basically you don’t want to walk in there completely blind, instead you will have a good idea of how things will proceed and the two of you will be better off for it.

Tip#3 – Contain your horniness

It is perfectly understandable that you will feel all hot and excited when you’re starting to chat with someone online about sex. You feel all warm and fuzzy in many places of your body, with your blood rushing out of your head and into your other body parts. But here is the thing: you don’t really know who you are talking too yet. They are most likely genuine but they could be some scammer with completely different intentions than you think. When you’re feeling horny, you’re not the best judge of any situation. Now we’re not trying to kill your vibe or scare you against online dating. It is not just about spotting scammers but also about making sure that your potential partner wants to do things you are okay with. When you’re excited you forget to set the rules, and it is best to talk about what is acceptable and what is not. If you can keep it in your pants in the early stages, chances are you will be able to show more control later on in the bedroom.

You get the idea: failing to set things up is like setting yourself up to fail. It sounds harsh but a few conversations before the act can make the difference between a good one night stand and a bad one. You don’t want to have a bad one, it might put you off a very good thing!

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Forgiven
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World Traveller
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BDSM is Not My Source for Life.
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Oh no, I’m not.
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Body Talk and Sexual Health

Orgasm Challenge

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

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You’ve probably heard about bondage and domination before but you’re probably still curious about how it all works. That’s because it is such a different concept, and in fact a different way to have sex altogether. Television and movies have their own portrayal of BDSM but it generally isn’t all that accurate. Do to break it down simply, we will just talk about the two types of people who engage into this sort of practice: the dominators and the dominated.

The dominators

A lot of us spend our lives being told what to do, from our parents telling us off, going through school and being bossed around at work. We often feel that we have a lack of control over our lives. Sex is a great way to get on top of this, but sometimes just having normal sex doesn’t quite give us that opportunity to get proper control over the situation. This is the main reason why people enjoy the concept of dominating, it allows them to take control back over their lives. It makes sense, and we can start to understand why people enjoy dominating others, but what about people who like to be dominated?

The dominated

Unlike the dominators, dominated people want to be given orders. They want to lose control and relinquish authority to someone else, which might sound strange but there can be many reasons behind this. Imagine being this big company boss where you spend all your time giving out orders to everybody. You’re always in charge, nothing gets done without your say-so. You might just reach that point where you never get to enjoy someone else taking the reins, and you might well get fed up of always being the one in charge. What better way to give up this control than taking part in a BDSM relationship where you are the one being dominated? Most of us will at least sympathise with the idea that sex is all about taking you out of your everyday problems, and sometimes you have to do a little bit more to really switch off from your everyday stresses.

What about pain?

People often wonder why pain is such a central part of BDSM. The truth is that it doesn’t always have to be, sometimes people just role-play and make use of various uniforms. But there is often that element of pain which comes in, though it doesn’t have to necessarily be whips. People sometimes just do a bit of light spanking, or they even just discipline a person to do things for them, a little bit like a slave. But when it comes to pain, it is not as simple as people just hurting each other. There is actually a lot of trust between people who role play, and they make sure put boundaries to how far they can go. This is why code words, also known as ‘safe words’ can be used to indicate that the pain is too much. All these things are agreed before the start of the act. BDSM might look scary, but it can actually be more kind than normal sex.

Where to get started

Your best bet if you are curious about BDSM is to start reading about it, there are plenty of websites which can help for this, and as usual Google is your friend. Alternatively you can always join a BDSM specialized dating website such as mybdsmhookups.com, where you can then talk to people who enjoy this kind of practice. There is nothing wrong with reaching out to people to find out more about the things you are curious about, especially when it comes to BDSM. There are a lot of rules, things-to-do and things-not-to-do; and the best way to get familiar with it all is to reach out to the right people. Whether you are more on the dominating side or the dominated one, make sure to take your time. BDSM involves a lot of care and practicing, so it is essential that you get it right if you want a good experience for you and for your partners.

 

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Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

How to Make Time for Kinky Fuckery
Submissive Power Is Hot Stuff
Topping from the Bottom
Daddy
Property Milestone
Dead Heat
Submissive power and the storms of life
I Talk A Lot, But Not About That
I Just Want To Be Me
What I Get Out Of Locking A Man in Chastity
BDSM and pick-up artists

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Socks and Sex
Marsala? The Color of My Panties? Who Knew?

Erotic Fiction

Short Strokes: Molasses Makes Me Horny
12 Step Homeopathic Remedy for Scorned Lovers
Alice’s Wonderland
Feel His Breath On Me
Out For A Walk
Playing in the Band
Braille
Coming Pretty
The Fall
Erotica After Hours
Dancing in the Dark

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Make Love to Me
I Used to Fake Orgasms. This is Why I Stopped

Poetry

Brigitta – A Lusty Limerick

Erotic Non-Fiction

With a very sharp knife
black bra and g-string
Debut
Meeting Slave Olive for a Cash Point Meet
LachrymoseWhen Two Doms Play…Fuck Tender!

 

 

 

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